St. Dorotheus understands that a common objection to his teachings on these subjects is that what if you do an examination of conscience and you find yourself innocent of anything and yet someone still had hurt you? What then?

The Saint would say as he did in the latter 4 paragraphs in the link at the end of this post:

“This kind of thinking is surely ridiculous and has no rational basis.”

The mere fact that someone has “issues” with you indicates that something is awry in your relationship with him. The issues may be either real (grounded in something that you did that the other took offense) or perceived (grounded in something that you thought was harmless but they took offense at. Perhaps an misunderstanding on their part. Nevertheless, you did something.)

Humility in either case begs forgiveness and amendment of purpose. You may see your actions in a different light if they can be misunderstood. Of course, no one can completely control how others perceive their actions, yet humility allows for reasons and methods to heal the wounds caused by misunderstandings.

From the teachings of St. Dorotheus, abbot

(Via Idaho Lay Dominicans.)

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