My parents got drunk on their 25th wedding anniversary in April 1962.

Nine months later I was born.

My parents did this ‘later in life,’ Dad was shy of 50 and Mom had just turned 46. That’s ‘old’ to have kids even nowadays; in the early 1960s? “Ancient.”

I never suspected. I recall asking my Mom as to when she expected me. My due date was a particular date in February 1963. So I counted backwards nine months and arrived in May 1962. Nothing extraordinary occurred in the family history in that month that would account for my being conceived, so I figured I was an ordinary accident. It wasn’t until the early 1990s when I found out the truth about what really happened around April 15, 1962! My sainted mother ‘obscured the truth.’ That’s more charitable than accusing her of ‘lying.’ She easily remembered my alleged due date as that is the date I was baptized. I had always thought that was a neat coincidence; they enshrined my original due date by having me christened on it! HAH!

I honestly believe that people who ‘shouldn’t have been born’ because of the circumstances surrounding their conception have no special purpose in life. This refers to people conceived under sinful circumstances: drunkenness, rape, carelessness, whatever – the parents ‘sinned.’ If one or both parents behaved properly, then they wouldn’t have had the child. They are the Unintended. They weren’t willed by God to be born, just permitted to be and so weren’t assigned any real special task. Just be good, don’t sin as much as you are able to, follow the natural law of good and evil written on the hearts of all and muddle through life as best you can. Anything good and meritorious accomplished is an unintended bonus. Pure profit.

I know it is said that we all have a special mission or purpose unique to us. Something only we can do, no one else. The old Baltimore Catechism said that we were born to ‘know, love, and serve God in this life and be happy with Him forever in the next.” That’s basic and applicable to everyone. Call it a ‘Default Purpose.’ Those willed to exist by God may have special features added to that. Those not willed by God to be born, the Unintended, just do the ‘know, love, and serve,’ stuff as a part of the “just be good, don’t sin as much as you are able to, follow the natural law of good and evil written on the hearts of all and muddle through as best you can” part.

This is all kind of comforting to me, if correct. Nothing much is expected of me and so maybe I’ll be judged lightly when the time comes for my Particular Judgement upon death. Doesn’t mean I’ll be whisked right on through; I expect to become acquainted with Purgatory. But I really doubt that God willed a specific intended purpose for someone who ‘shouldn’t be.’

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