FORGIVE YOURSELF!

Spirit Daily has an excellent article on the need to “FORGIVE YOURSELF!”

Kindly read it, it is very important for us alcoholics and addicts (anyone, really) to release ourselves from the emotional bonds that tie us to the deeds of our past. And not just for the here-and-now mental health. There is an eternal dimension, too.

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Mercy triumphs over judgment

St. James in his New Testament Letter offers us a compelling reason to practice mercy:

This is the Reading from the Morning Prayer in today’s Liturgy of the Hours:

James 2:13: “For the judgment is merciless to one who has not shown mercy; mercy triumphs over judgment.”

“Mercy” can be directly related to practicing forgiveness, and this is connected to the Lord’s Prayer verse in which Jesus essentially connects your desire for God’s forgiveness with you forgiving others:

Matthew 6:14-15: “If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions.”

You show mercy to others and it will be shown to you.

Forgiveness does not mean, at least to me, reconciliation with the person or people who have offended or hurt you. It may mean cutting the emotional ties and resentment over the deed they have done. You may pray for them and offer up sufferings for their salvation, but reconciliation may be too much to handle and cope with.

All Scripture passages courtesy of: USCCB.

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Lord, forgive the wrong I have done

The Responsorial Psalm for the Eleventh Sunday in Ordinary Time is a hymn of forgiveness:

Psalm 32:1-2, 5, 7, 11: “Blessed is the one whose fault is taken away, whose sin is covered. Blessed the man to whom the LORD imputes not guilt, in whose spirit there is no guile.

I acknowledged my sin to you, my guilt I covered not. I said, ‘I confess my faults to the LORD,’ and you took away the guilt of my sin.

You are my shelter; from distress you will preserve me; with glad cries of freedom you will ring me round.

Be glad in the LORD and rejoice, you just; exult, all you upright of heart.”

(Via USCCB.)

There are Steps in the 12 Step Movement to remove character defects (“faults”), and prayer and humility are the primary means for this to happen. It might not happen overnight, but instead over time, but as one’s descent in alcoholism and addiction may take place over time, so to does the healing.

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Crucifying your old self

This week is Holy Week, the time from Palm Sunday thru the Triduum (3 days) of Holy Thursday, Good Friday and Holy Saturday. It is also a good time to get “caught up” with your Lenten resolutions of interior conversion and penance. Spirit Daily has a great article on using Holy Week to “become a new person” , the person that you are supposed to be. Isn’t that a main point of the addiction recovery process?

Here it is:

Spirit Daily: “HOLY WEEK IS TIME TO PUT ON A NEW NATURE AND SEND YOUR GUILT INTO THE WOUNDS OF THE LORD”

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Our Lady of Lourdes Novena for Alcoholics: Day 6

We all bear grudges at one time or another. Someone has wronged us, either by a real infraction or a perceived one, and we are hurt. There is a wound on our psyche and we suffer. The hurt remains and we are tied to the person and the event by this feeling. This is maintained by being unforgiving.

Forgiveness cuts these ties. By forgiving the person of the wrong they have perpetrated against us we release ourselves from the anchor that hinders our spiritual development.

Some people, myself included, feel that withholding forgiveness denies victory to the perpetrator. We feel that we have the upper hand, the moral high ground in the conflict. Truth is, quite often the perpetrator doesn’t remember the action, doesn’t care about the event and may even be not guilty of any wrongdoing. The only person suffering is the victim. Not always, but even when the grudge is justified, holding onto it only perpetuates the original act. It is as if there just wasn’t one harmful act, but a succession.

We can heal ourselves by forgiving the person, either outright through contact with that person, or just in our own minds. We release ourselves from the event and the harm it had caused. The effects may not be immediate, but healing will occur over time.

There are additional posts on forgiveness on this blog, just go to the “Labels”section in the sidebar and click on “Forgiveness”.

The Blessed Mother is always ready to assist us:

Pray:

Oh ever Immaculate Virgin, Mother of Mercy, Health of the Sick, Refuge of Sinners, Comfortess of the Afflicted, you know my wants, my troubles, my sufferings. Look upon me with mercy. When you appeared in the grotto of Lourdes, you made it a privileged sanctuary where you dispense your favors, and where many sufferers have obtained the cure of their infirmities, both spiritual and corporal. I come, therefore, with unbounded confidence to implore your maternal intercession. My loving Mother, obtain my request. I will try to imitate your virtues so that I may one day share your company and bless you in eternity. Amen

From: Prayers – Catholic Online: “Prayer to Our Lady of Lourdes”

NOTE: repost from last year

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Do not spurn a broken heart

Finally, in the 19th verse of Psalm 51, the penitent offers up themselves:

Psalm 51:19: “My sacrifice, God, is a broken spirit; God, do not spurn a broken, humbled heart.”

(Via USCCB.)

The penitent’s soul and very being is offered as a sacrifice. The penitent is stating that their entire self depends upon God for their happiness, and in order to maintain that union they are offering up as a sacrifice all that they are in repentance and conversion.

This is an utterly humble declaration. Some saints have stated that they are perfectly willing to be completely annihilated if it glorifies God more. An ultimate sacrifice for the beloved.

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I will teach

The series on Psalm 51 resumes…

The 15th verse of Psalm 51 illustrates one of the benefits to others of the penitent’s conversion:

Psalm 51:15: “I will teach the wicked your ways, that sinners may return to you.”

(Via USCCB.)

Because of the experience and happiness over their conversion, the penitent will go and teach others of this. We do not keep our experience to ourselves, we share it with others. Others will be brought closer to God and experience the same joy of forgiveness and re-union with the Lord. Although some may balk at the Psalmist’s use of the word “wicked”, it can be an accurate adjective for those who have strayed from the path of the Lord. The penitent clearly felt “wicked”, hence the depth of their remorse and desire for forgiveness.

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Don't send me away from you

The penitent pleas with the Lord in the 13th verse to keep him close:

Psalm 51:13: “Do not drive me from your presence, nor take from me your holy spirit.”

(Via USCCB.)

A persistent fear that the sin was so grievous that God may cause banishment as a consequence of the penitent’s action motivates the sinner to plead for additional mercy. The penitent prays to remain in God’s presence, and to continue to receive His guidance through the workings of the Holy Spirit. The penitent desires not to be lost forever, for without God’s presence and guidance, Hell is certain.

Ask God to remain near. He is always close to the humble and sorrowful.

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What are Indulgences?

Indulgences are among the more recognizable of Catholic Christian beliefs, like devotion to the Blessed Mother. They are often misunderstood, and have been a source of scandal to the Church in the past (a cause of the so-called Protestant “Reformation.”)

This is what the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) teaches:

1471: ” The doctrine and practice of indulgences in the Church are closely linked to the effects of the sacrament of Penance.

What is an indulgence?

‘An indulgence is a remission before God of the temporal punishment due to sins whose guilt has already been forgiven, which the faithful Christian who is duly disposed gains under certain prescribed conditions through the action of the Church which, as the minister of redemption, dispenses and applies with authority the treasury of the satisfactions of Christ and the saints.

‘An indulgence is partial or plenary according as it removes either part or all of the temporal punishment due to sin.The faithful can gain indulgences for themselves or apply them to the dead.”

(Via USCCB.)

The connection to sin and the remission of guilt is described in the following paragraphs, along with the relationship to the dead, and why it is important to pray for them:

(The CCC continues:)

The punishments of sin”:
1472
To understand this doctrine and practice of the Church, it is necessary to understand that sin has a double consequence. Grave sin deprives us of communion with God and therefore makes us incapable of eternal life, the privation of which is called the ‘eternal punishment’ of sin. On the other hand every sin, even venial, entails an unhealthy attachment to creatures, which must be purified either here on earth, or after death in the state called Purgatory. This purification frees one from what is called the ‘temporal punishment’ of sin. These two punishments must not be conceived of as a kind of vengeance inflicted by God from without, but as following from the very nature of sin. A conversion which proceeds from a fervent charity can attain the complete purification of the sinner in such a way that no punishment would remain.

1473
The forgiveness of sin and restoration of communion with God entail the remission of the eternal punishment of sin, but temporal punishment of sin remains. While patiently bearing sufferings and trials of all kinds and, when the day comes, serenely facing death, the Christian must strive to accept this temporal punishment of sin as a grace. He should strive by works of mercy and charity, as well as by prayer and the various practices of penance, to put off completely the ‘old man’ and to put on the ‘new man.

In the Communion of Saints

1474
The Christian who seeks to purify himself of his sin and to become holy with the help of God’s grace is not alone. ‘The life of each of God’s children is joined in Christ and through Christ in a wonderful way to the life of all the other Christian brethren in the supernatural unity of the Mystical Body of Christ, as in a single mystical person.

1475
In the communion of saints, ‘a perennial link of charity exists between the faithful who have already reached their heavenly home, those who are expiating their sins in purgatory and those who are still pilgrims on earth. Between them there is, too, an abundant exchange of all good things. In this wonderful exchange, the holiness of one profits others, well beyond the harm that the sin of one could cause others. Thus recourse to the communion of saints lets the contrite sinner be more promptly and efficaciously purified of the punishments for sin.

1476
We also call these spiritual goods of the communion of saints the Church’s treasury, which is ‘not the sum total of the material goods which have accumulated during the course of the centuries. On the contrary the ‘treasury of the Church’ is the infinite value, which can never be exhausted, which Christ’s merits have before God. They were offered so that the whole of mankind could be set free from sin and attain communion with the Father. In Christ, the Redeemer himself, the satisfactions and merits of his Redemption exist and find their efficacy.

1477
‘This treasury includes as well the prayers and good works of the Blessed Virgin Mary. They are truly immense, unfathomable, and even pristine in their value before God. In the treasury, too, are the prayers and good works of all the saints, all those who have followed in the footsteps of Christ the Lord and by his grace have made their lives holy and carried out the mission the Father entrusted to them. In this way they attained their own salvation and at the same time cooperated in saving their brothers in the unity of the Mystical Body.

Obtaining indulgence from God through the Church

1478
An indulgence is obtained through the Church who, by virtue of the power of binding and loosing granted her by Christ Jesus, intervenes in favor of individual Christians and opens for them the treasury of the merits of Christ and the saints to obtain from the Father of mercies the remission of the temporal punishments due for their sins. Thus the Church does not want simply to come to the aid of these Christians, but also to spur them to works of devotion, penance, and charity.

1479
Since the faithful departed now being purified are also members of the same communion of saints, one way we can help them is to obtain indulgences for them, so that the temporal punishments due for their sins may be remitted.”

(Via USCCB.)

The link to these in the online CCC has supporting Scriptural references.

This stuff is important to the recovering alcoholic and addict as we do have our sinful past to contend with. He we completely cleaned it up and atoned for it?

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Blot out all my guilt

The 11th verse of Psalm 51 is a repetition of verse 3.

Psalm 51:11: “Turn away your face from my sins; blot out all my guilt.”

(Via USCCB.)

The Lord forgives, and the Lord “forgets.” The slate is clean, it is “as if” the sin never happened.

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