Category Archives: Virtue

Armor of God

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We are engaged in a battle when we are addicts and alcoholics. For all the talk of the medical, genetic or environmental causes of alcoholism and addiction, we cannot ignore the spiritual side of the affliction. I think even the founders of AA said that alcoholism is a spiritual problem. In acknowledging the spiritual side of addiction we cannot just assume that it is a problem in our relationship with God. The spiritual world has its dark forces, too. If you read the New Testament, demons were among the earliest to acknowledge the truth of Jesus. Jesus did battle with them, from His being tempted in the desert to casting them out of people they inhabited.

People who are “rational” scoff at the notion of demonic activity, yet it is a Church teaching that they exist and it is sensible to assume that they use whatever tools are available to them to destroy us and keep us from God.

If addictions fill the “hole in our soul” that should be filled by our desire for God, then possibly demons use them as the best means at their disposal to fill that hole and divert us from God. Our addictions satisfy a spiritual longing that is better taken up by devotion to God. But they are immediately satisfying instead of the longer time that spiritual conversion usually takes.

And so we are not just engaged in a battle against our desires. Our desires may be merely tools used against us. For whatever the reason, we who are alcoholics and addicts have an increased sensitivity to our desires and an inordinate need to fulfill them.

But we have weapons at our disposal. St. Paul writes:

Ephesians 6:10-17: “Finally, draw your strength from the Lord and from his mighty power.

Put on the armor of God so that you may be able to stand firm against the tactics of the devil.

For our struggle is not with flesh and blood but with the principalities, with the powers, with the world rulers of this present darkness, with the evil spirits in the heavens.

Therefore, put on the armor of God, that you may be able to resist on the evil day and, having done everything, to hold your ground.

So stand fast with your loins girded in truth, clothed with righteousness as a breastplate,

and your feet shod in readiness for the gospel of peace.

In all circumstances, hold faith as a shield, to quench all (the) flaming arrows of the evil one.

And take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

(Via USCCB.)

The Faith is our shield. Studying the Catechism of the Catholic Church (available in most bookstores, plus there are links to online versions of it in the sidebar), which is the summary of our Faith, is one weapon. Prayers to the Holy Spirit is another. Regular reading of the Bible is another weapon. Prayerfully study the Catechism and the Bible, and your “armor of God” will be strengthened against the onslaught of the devil and his demons.

I heard in an AA meeting once (and this has been repeated in various ways by other people) that meeting attendance interrupts the thought processes that lead to a relapse. If that is so, then there can be no better way to interrupt the slide to a relapse that calling upon the graces of God that result when you build up your Faith through the reading of the Bible and the Catechism. If a mere meeting can help stave off a relapse, how much more mighty a shield is there than Scripture and the Catechism?

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Person of Destiny

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There is an article from Spirit Daily that I encourage you to read.

An excerpt explains it better:

“You are a person of destiny. You are destined for Heaven. You are destined to be the best you can be.

You are also unique. Period. Your greatness is not worldly greatness.

And so your soul bears God’s secret imprint.”

Read the rest via Spirit Daily.

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The Courage to be Chaste

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Catholics in Recovery member Chris L (aka “kjunlandr”) has started a new website for those struggling with lust called: Courage to be Chaste.

It so far consists of a discussion forum where members can discretely share their daily struggles with sex addiction, lust and pornography. Catholics in Recovery has a discussion forum for this, but as a general site for Catholics struggling with addiction, it cannot meet the specific needs of this particular community.

I like to think that Courage to be Chaste and Catholics in Recovery will complement each other. Catholic addicts can join both if they struggle with lust and something else, and participate in whichever community best serves their particular need.

Chris has plans to further develop Courage to be Chaste, so it is a work in progress. Pray for its success.

Join up if you need support in dealing with these issues. We are all in this together.

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Be-attitudes

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The Gospel Reading from the Mass for today (Monday of the 10th Week in Ordinary Time) is the “Sermon on the Mount”, or the beatitudes.

Matthew 5:1-12: “When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain,
and after he had sat down, his disciples came to him.
He began to teach them, saying:

‘Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are they who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the land.
Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be satisfied.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the clean of heart,
for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness,
for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are you when they insult you and persecute you
and utter every kind of evil against you falsely because of me.
Rejoice and be glad,
for your reward will be great in heaven.
Thus they persecuted the prophets who were before you.’“

(Via USCCB.)

I’ve heard them called the “Be-Attitudes” as they reflect a proper attitude “to be”. With a proper, serene state of mind and a right orientation of behavior, we are blessed and in a state of grace in our relationship with God.

By a “right orientation” I mean attitudes and actions that are formed and guided by Catholic moral and social teachings. The Catechism of the Church, and obviously Sacred Scripture are the sources for these. There are links in the sidebar for online versions of these.

Read and quietly meditate on today’s Gospel Reading. Try to read them as if you have not read or heard of them before.

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Bread from Heaven

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Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life, and without Him there can be hardly any true sustenance for you to get through the meanness of daily life and the offerings of the secular world. The Gospel Reading from today’s Daily Mass says so:

John 6:30-35: “The crowd said to Jesus:
‘What sign can you do, that we may see and believe in you?
What can you do?
Our ancestors ate manna in the desert, as it is written:

He gave them bread from heaven to eat.’

So Jesus said to them,
‘Amen, amen, I say to you,
it was not Moses who gave the bread from heaven;
my Father gives you the true bread from heaven.
For the bread of God is that which comes down from heaven
and gives life to the world.’

So they said to Jesus,
‘Sir, give us this bread always.’
Jesus said to them, ‘I am the bread of life;
whoever comes to me will never hunger,
and whoever believes in me will never thirst.’“

(Via USCCB.)

Place your faith in Jesus, He will fill up the “hole in your soul” that is filled with the empty and unsatisfying promises of the world. In the past that hole might have been filled with alcohol. Have you fully turned towards Jesus and offered Him your life? He had died for you because you were meant for more than what the world says you have value for.

You were meant for more than your job and how much money you make and what you spend it on. You were meant for more than casual recreational sex and the emptiness it often leads to, once you morally examen that area of your life.

Faith in Jesus is a living daily affirmation:

…Give us this day our daily bread...

Everything else is a distraction.

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Be Sober, Calm and Vigilant

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Today’s First Reading from the Office of Readings in the Liturgy of the Hours has a nice exhortation to us alcoholics ( well, anyone, really):

1 Peter 5:8-9: “Be sober and vigilant. Your opponent the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion looking for (someone) to devour. Resist him, steadfast in faith, knowing that your fellow believers throughout the world undergo the same sufferings.”

(Via USCCB.)

Compare the New American Bible’s translation above with the Jerusalem Bible’s version below and you gain some interesting insights into being sober:

1 Peter 5:8-9: “Be calm but vigilant, because your enemy the devil is prowling round like a roaring lion, looking for someone to eat. Stand up to him, strong in faith and in the knowledge that your brothers all over the world are suffering the same things.”

(Via Universalis.)

One nice reason for having multiple Catholic translations of the Bible is that you can compare the differences in a particular verse and get a better understanding of what it means. In the First Letter of Peter, one version uses “sober” whereas the other uses “calm”. Sober can then mean “calm”. This reminds us of remaining calm in the face of things that in the past would have led us to alcohol. We recall our training in AA meetings on how we must change how we react to things.

The same thing for dealing with Satan, for he is ever present in the World and is always eager to take advantage of whatever chink there is in your spiritual armor.

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Suppressed consciences

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This excerpt from the First Reading for Mass for the Monday of the Fifth Week of Lent serves an interesting insight into the inner workings of the mind on its way to committing sin (and an addictive relapse):

Daniel 13:6-14: “…These men, to whom all brought their cases, frequented the house of Joakim.

When the people left at noon, Susanna used to enter her husband’s garden for a walk.

When the old men saw her enter every day for her walk, they began to lust for her.

They suppressed their consciences; they would not allow their eyes to look to heaven, and did not keep in mind just judgments.

Though both were enamored of her, they did not tell each other their trouble,

for they were ashamed to reveal their lustful desire to have her.

Day by day they watched eagerly for her.

One day they said to each other, ‘Let us be off for home, it is time for lunch.’ So they went out and parted;

but both turned back, and when they met again, they asked each other the reason. They admitted their lust, and then they agreed to look for an occasion when they could meet her alone.”

Via USCCB.)

Take out “Susanna” and substitute any of the “people, places and things” that serve as triggers for relapse and we see a mirror of the mental processes that lead to a relapse.

The image of the object of desire, be it a lustful target or just an old drinking establishment, somehow causes the conscience to be supressed. Anyone who has relapsed, or came close to it, understands. Your “right-thinking” is turned off, God is distant and “just judgments” are far from your thoughts.

The object takes over and mindlessly the addict succumbs and falls prey to it.

I heard it explained in an AA meeting that meeting attendance interrupts this thought process and halts the trend towards relapse. This is fine for those who still actively attending 12 Step meetings. But for those who do not, there is prayer, Mass and the sacraments. The grace of God present in these can be enough to save the addict from falling.

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Things of the Lord

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The Responsorial Psalm for the Third Sunday in Lent paints a nice picture of knowing the will of God:

Psalm 19:8-11: “The law of the LORD is perfect, refreshing the soul. The decree of the LORD is trustworthy, giving wisdom to the simple.

The precepts of the LORD are right, rejoicing the heart. The command of the LORD is clear, enlightening the eye.

The fear of the LORD is pure, enduring forever. The statutes of the LORD are true, all of them just;

More desirable than gold, than a hoard of purest gold, Sweeter also than honey or drippings from the comb”

(Via USCCB.)

The best way to grow closer to God in the privacy of your own dwelling, or even when enjoying nature, is to study the Bible, the source of His laws, precepts, commands and statutes.

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Just Do It

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The Readings for Mass for the Saturday in the First Week of Lent have a theme that essentially states that following the law of the Lord (keeping His commandments and doing His will) brings happiness. I will just post a link to all three readings instead of copying-and-pasting them here:

Readings for Saturday of the First Week of Lent

Via USCCB.)

This is arguably not an easy concept to grasp and follow. The secular world clearly does not equate “obedience” and “following the Law” with “freedom” and “happiness”. The secular world tells you to follow your own conscience, conveniently forgetting (or not realizing) that there is really no such thing as a “free-thinker”, or one who is truly independent. Everyone’s conscience is formed and influenced by something, be it by social organizations, political parties, or popular media.

In a contradiction typical of Christianity (such as a death means life), obeying God and doing His will regardless of the “world’s” sensibilities is freedom and liberation. In doing so, we are freed of the limitations imposed upon us by times and trends, by shifting and changing attitudes and human “truths”, and are connected to the eternal wisdom of God. We are not restrained by mere human, secular, relative ideals.

How does this relate to us sober (or sobering up) alcoholics?

The world tells us in general to avoid doing the hard things. “If it feels good, do it.” “Don’t rock the boat.” “Go with the flow.” And forget about interior conversion and struggling to change your life, unless you’re doing it by some pop “self-help” book which usually describes an easy way out, avoiding sacrifice.

We alcoholics with any degree of sustained sobriety know better. We have struggled to retrain ourselves how to react to things, to not drown our sorrows and troubles in some false and empty escapism. We have learned to trust in God, and to seek His way in all things.

We can take this further as sober Catholics and obey Church teaching, having learned that Jesus established the Church and promised to never abandon it, and that the Holy Spirit will guide it until the end of time, keeping it from teaching things contrary to what Jesus and the Apostles taught. Talk about being “countercultural” and being apart from the “world’s” ways.

So, “just do it.” Be a Catholic if you are one. And be the best that you can be. It will not be an easy road, for nothing good is truly easy. The rewards are many, even if seemingly far off. Your dignity as a human being is enhanced, as your life has an intrinsic, sacred value. This is far away from the world’s notion that life is cheap and can be bought and sold, or terminated for convenience.

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Crossing the Goal

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Note: cross-posted from Trudging Paulcoholic’s Road .

I just watched the encore broadcast of “Crossing the Goal”, a new EWTN program on Christian living and spirituality for men (Although probably women can benefit from it, especially if they have a man in their lives that they love and care about).

I make mention of it here as a recovered alcoholic I found many aspects of my life not fully developed and ripe for improvement, not the least of which was how to live as a man. In my spiritual progression out from alcoholism, I discovered that to be fully recovered (or on the path to being that) I had to rediscover what it means to be a man, not by today’s sexually overcharged, confused or ambiguous standards, but how to live as a virtuous and sober Catholic Christian man. It was the only way I felt that I could keep the drink at bay. There have been various aids along the way, one of which is the book entitled Spiritual Workout of a Former Saint (Via Our Sunday Visitor.) by former NFL All-Pro and New Orleans Saints coach Danny Abramowicz. Coach Abramowicz is a co-host of the show, and one reason why I tuned into it.

Today’s episode was on “Courage” and I won’t do the program justice by going into what they discussed, but it set the tone for the series as a weekly guide on how to find your true calling in life and live up to your potential. It also seems to serve as an antidote to the idea that religion and spirituality is the territory of women (how many men are there at Mass as opposed to women, at least in Western countries? Same for parish organizations? Not complaining nor judging female involvement in the Church, but it does seem that men have ceded activity in the Church to women. For the Church to be healthy, men need to take a greater, cooperative role.)

The website of the show is Crossing the Goal , and it contains the show’s airdates. It is repeated several times during the week. I highly recommend that you watch. (I don’t have cable nor satellite TV, I was able to watch it on my Mac using QuickTime.)

I have a new book! "The Sober Catholic Way" is a handbook on how anyone can live a sober life, drawn from over 17 years of SoberCatholic posts! It's out now on "Amazon," "Apple Books," "B&N" and and others!"!

My two other books are still available! "The Stations of the Cross for Alcoholics" and "The Recovery Rosary: Reflections for Alcoholics and Addicts" (Thank you!!)